I know exactly where you are not just because I’ve seen and helped hundreds of clients in this very situation get back to a place of connection, intimacy, and deep understanding, but because I’ve been there myself in my own relationship (one of the reasons why I love my work so much). Ultimately, my goal is to help couples reconnect, find intimacy and romance again.

AFTER COMPLETING RECLAIMING LOVE, YOU’LL BE ABLE TO:

• Communicate effectively, vulnerably, and openly with your partner (and vice versa)

• Understand each other’s triggers, past and attachment needs

• Listen to each other empathically, leaving each other feeling truly seen

• Mange and regulate your own emotions and tune into partners

• Argue and disagree without escalating

• Truly see, hear, and understand each other on a deeper level

HOW WILL YOUR LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP CHANGE?

• You’ll feel connected on an intimate level where being on the same page comes easily.

• You’ll be able to understand each other without feeling triggered or frustrated or personalizing your partners feeling in a negative way

• Your communication will be in-sync and both of you will be able to voice your feelings and thoughts and feel validated and closer for it.

TABLE OF CONTENTS:

MODULE 1: IDENTIFY YOUR PATTERN

• How to identify your cycle

• Understanding where the issue really lies

• What are the different cycles? (with examples)

• Exercise: couple will draw out their own cycle identifying and pointing out how they’re contributing and interacting with each other (worksheet provided with examples and a video walk through)

MODULE 2: FIND YOUR VOICE

• How to: use emotions to express needs and wants

• How to: practice effective communication

• Connected vs. disconnected couples: examples of communication styles of each

• Exercise: Checklist providing step-by-step on effective and vulnerable communication with each other

MODULE 3: HEAT IT UP

• How to: responding, validating, and practicing empathy

• What is validation and softening?

• How to: encouraging closeness and vulnerability

• Exercise: Checklist that builds on last module, couple will continue to solidify communication skills by adding empathic listening

MODULE 4: BE A WITNESS

• Inner child work—partner witnessing

• Deepening understanding of past attachments with family and parent’s impact within the lens of relationship

• Exercise: Meditation activity—setting intentions as a couple to be in an inviting headspace

• Worksheet/template/journaling activity: (couple takes turns) Answering and sharing specific questions while partner sits and acts as witness to the experience. Debrief check-in will also be provided discussing their experience (deepening intimacy created)

MODULE 5: ATTACH AND APPLY

• Consolidating information from module 4

• Understanding family cycles and their impact on relationships

• What is an attachment style and which one do I fall under?

• Exercise: applying and expanding on concepts from module 4 using an argument (recent or recurrent from past) viewed from attachment lens vs past reactionary lens

• Worksheet: highlighting different attachment styles and each partner identifying their own

MODULE 6: OUT WITH THE OLD

• Continuing to consolidate and build on module 5 concepts (helps couples become more of a unit and team)

• Truly integrating new cycle and dynamic

• What is our new cycle/dance?

• Exercise: couple will draw out their new cycle identifying and pointing out how they’re contributing and interacting with each other now vs to module 1 (worksheet provided with examples and a video walk through)

• Checklist step-by-step to practice new cycle with current/past disagreement/situation

MODULE 7: SLOW TO START

• How to bring up problems

• What is gentle start-up?

• Worksheet: Walk through of gentle start-up and step-by-step for couple to practice bringing up concerns

MODULE 8: LISTEN AND LEARN

• The art of true listening

• What is effective listening? (with examples)

• Worksheet and checklist: Effective listening tools

MODULE 9: TALK THE TALK

• Consolidating and integrating all things learned from past 3 weeks

• Couple practicing and providing tools within video to use speech, gentle start-up, and effective listening to consolidate and solidify new interaction cycle

• Meditation exercise: set intentions for calm and positive interactions and understanding

• Checklist and worksheet: setting up steps and practices to keep in mind when discussing difficult topics

• Checklist on what to do if things escalate

BONUS MODULE: REPAIR AND REDEEM:

• What are fights, benefits, and purpose?

• How to effectively reunite after a fight?

• Skills and techniques to repair after fight to minimize damage

• Worksheet/checklist: Step-by-step how to come back to one another, how to discuss feelings and concern in a threatening way, using gentle start-up, expressing empathy/understanding and listening skills

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